I’ve always loved Nat. I’m not blogging much of interest at the moment because I’m haunted by a terrible patch of ‘relationship’ neurosis. This happens often – hence the name of this blog – and before you all jump up in consternation, I am seeking professional help for it and one day hope to be Normal. And then turn grey.
Anyway.
Lately there’s been much talk about one-night stands and having a shag simply because it’s something fun to do. I’m terribly overwhelmed by this. I’ve never had a one-nighter myself. Just very short relationships.
But as we all head off into the weekend, I would like to know some opinions from the floor (and feel free to post anon. if this is all a little too spicy – write as you or as your alter-ego, I don’t mind) – do you one night stand? Do people actually just want to shag or is everybody – deep down – looking for someone to pat and kiss them and call them bunny?
Have you ever had just a 60-minute stand? Where you don’t even know the guy’s name really.
May 26, 2006 at 12:04 pm
I’m of the smug married kind, so feel free to ignore my opinion. But i’ve always suspected that, if it’s just about personal satisfaction, the woman is basically guaranteed an orgasm-free ONS. Or am i just naive? Maybe the buddy-system works better.
May 26, 2006 at 3:22 pm
i think for one nighters you must really take the matter in hand, as it were. you have to be assertive in what you want and this maybe isnt so easy for some women.
May 28, 2006 at 4:59 am
I’ve been in a relationship for five years but I used to – ahem – enjoy having the odd random fling.
May 28, 2006 at 11:13 am
excellent advice (stephan – you always say just the right things) -but in my defense I don’t approach ONS as a mini-relationship – I just tend to only sleep with men I’m likely to sleep with again. And the question really is – am i ninny because of this.
May 29, 2006 at 8:09 am
You’re not a ninny at all. One of the crueller aspects of modern existence is that we’ve somehow come to believe that it is pathetic to become attached to people, especially if you’re a woman and you become attached “too quickly”. So you’re someone that only enters into something if you know that there’s something more than instant gratification on the horizon. Not a bad character trait.
May 29, 2006 at 9:15 am
i think one-night-stands means loving someone for a moment. then letting it go completely.
May 29, 2006 at 1:29 pm
We’ve actually chatted about this before.
May 29, 2006 at 2:17 pm
Sparky, some ONS just want to cuddle. And I mean just cuddling and kissing (maybe a little fun-bag action, but nothing below the belt)…
May 30, 2006 at 8:09 am
I once decided to live out of my id for a month and just follow every wild urge that came over me. Then my id expressed a great urge to spend every Friday evening on the couch reading a book and drinking hot chocolate. Go figure!
May 30, 2006 at 9:38 am
on the subject of friends and the things they do to watch our backs, i would like to take this little space and say thanks to mostlyblue for taking care of a little matter for me yesterday.
May 30, 2006 at 9:58 am