the dot spot

someone asked me what the difference is between porn and erotica.

for me, straight americano-style porn is fast food, mcdonalds or a steers veggie burger. it satisfies without subtlety; it’s an MSG attack on the senses; a rushed wank to rid oneself of boredom or a lingering subsurface almost-horniness that’s become more annoying than interesting. it is FHM, playboy, american pie, college humour, teen spunk.

so hot.

erotica has subtlety, its allure is in what is not shown or in what is simply suggested. they are two people fucking, yes, but there is more. character, lighting, camera angle, focus, texture, context, eyes … subtext … it suggests there is more to the image than just a penis inserted into the vagina or some similar image that is neurologically hardwired into us to produce the biological function of lust. erotica appeals to other functions of the thinking mind.

that is why it is so revealing to know what other people find sexy.

maybe a little too obvious and 'art', but you get my meaning

i have both porn and erotica on the NSFW monday posts but really, what is erotic to one person is a porn dry hump to another.

the same person that asked me about the porn/erotica divide suggested that he would rather write a guest blog for GQ than TheDotSpot, as the latter was considered salacious and unappetising to the social mores of the body politic (he didn’t know he was talking to me at the time, so felt free to express himself honestly).

political correctness is amusing to me. a don’t ask, don’t tell affair of click click clickety click in the dark where no one can see you, while nodding sagely about principles in the cold light of day…

Straight americano-style porn is fast food, mcdonalds or a steers veggie burger. it satisfies without subtlety; it’s an MSG attack on the senses; a rushed wank

in my very humble opinion, glossies do more to influence  – negatively, for both ourselves and our relationships — our perception of reality and its growing lists of ‘shoulds’ … (only recently black/)white, beautiful, hot, wealthy, always well-dressed and well-groomed, always happy/sultry/solemn/happy, waxed, all boobs/chests look the same (in mainstream porn or porn lite, so do all vaginas and penises), faces are always buffed, gender roles always entrenched, there is never a fat roll in sight and everything is heteronormative to the enth degree (girl on girl, YES! boy on boy? that’s just GAY!) … than a few pics of nudes and people fucking will ever do.

we love looking at pretty people, but must it mean sacrificing our sense of humanity?

i like to think that these weekly pics of people with different shaped vaginas, arms, tits, arses, cocks, mouths and skin colours (again, VERY difficult to find) is going some way to restoring the balance.

cos there’s nothing that levels the playing the field more than nudity without photoshop. check out this week’s self-submissions from The Closet Exhibitionist [clickety click].