Hi Dorothy
I love my boyfriend so so so much, we’ve know each other for five years, been together for two. He treats me well and we respect each other a lot and I love sex with him. Here is the question: He wants me to swallow as this will prove my love for him. Sometimes he jokes about it, but I know he wants me to. I just can’t! I want to gag with it in my mouth. What do I say to him?
Gagging for an answer
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Dear GFAA
You say: Darling, if the measure of my loving you is me swallowing your junk, the measure of your love for me is if you’d do the same. cum in a cup and swallow it all.
it’s such a random (not to mention emotionally manipulative) correlation to draw.
Personally, i’m not so much about swallowing unless i’m deep throating (then it’s so far back you can’t taste anything or even feel it going down) or i’m really, really, really into a guy. then i just want to swallow them whole. but that’s rare and only really happened once. i can get why guys like the whole ‘swallow my spunk’ vibe – it’s sexy when someone is so fucking into giving you sexual pleasure that they just want to suck every inch of you in. it’s very affirming and accepting, and really any form of disgust in ANY way and at ANY body part or sexual function is a real buzzkill and can make even the most confident person feel a little off.
but to do the ‘if you love me thing’ is kak. people have different tastes, pleasures and enjoyments. he should accept yours i think. maybe you can figure out together if it’s a visual thing for him in which case maybe do the side shot.
usually i pull away just as they cum and have them cum kinda to the side of my mouth. there’ll be some cum in your mouth and you’ll taste it etc, but there won’t that whole wack of jack you swallow. and you still look like you had mouth full of cum. cos seriously, most dudes i know are in no position to be paying attention to anything after a good blowjob, let alone follow the details of where their spunk landed.
also, check his diet. what dudes eat affects the taste of their cum.
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this is such EVERLOVING ALLMIGHTY BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this is totally manipulative shit. if anybody comes with ‘if you love me you wil…..’ then he is just manipulating your feelings for him. and he is being a fucking cunt. pardon my french.
will he eat you out when you are on your period? i highly fucking doubt it.
if your teenage daughter came to you, and said ‘bobby said i must sleep with him, to prove that i love him’. you will have a coronary. and anybody with half a brain know it’s utter bullshit.
what next, if you love me, you will fuck my friend while i watch? if you love me, you will take it up the ass?
did he even ONCE ask you if you even like it?
i dont give head. i hate it. its nothing personal, i just simply dont like it. and my bf respects that. if he had to pull a stunt like that, i will laugh at him firstly, and tell him to fuck off.
what a fucking wanker.
tell him this, if he will swallow his own cum, then you will swallow it too. see he quickly he chickens out.
June 28, 2012 at 5:45 pm
Such a douchebag he is! I hate that “if you love me I will” bullshit. My Gf loves giving me head, I’ve never asked her to do it and neither have I asked her to swallow, she just does. If she is in the mood then she will swallow with no complaints afterward. I have told her many times that its not a requirement to swallow but she doesn’t mind. Sometimes she spits and sometimes its on her boobs on anywhere else. Guess it all boils down to individual preference.
June 28, 2012 at 9:51 pm
Dont do it! You swallow because YOU want to and not for any other reason and if the fact that you dont want to is a deal breaker for your fella then he is not the man for you.
As a sugestion i do not recomend that you do the ‘If you swallow it, i will’ thing. As an ex did that to me and i swallowed every last drop which kind of left her in an awkward position. Luckily for her i am a nice guy and never made her pay up lol.
August 23, 2012 at 12:41 pm