the dot spot

a common conversation with women i meet lately starts something like this: ‘so he was cool at first but then he didn’t want to do anything and the sex was, ag, hm, yaaa, he just couldn’t keep it up/went limp a lot/he didn’t have a lot of staying power’

and ends something like this: ‘and that fucking weed’

i’m not going to go into the either/or argument strong supporters for or against cannabis like to jump up and down about. at least dope makes you high, which is more than i can say for cigarettes.

but i’ve only ever heard one woman say: ‘oh it’s not affected his sex drive or erection at all’. ONE. (of course, in all other aspects of his life he’s an adult child.)

dope numbs you. all of you. and it’s distancing if you’re stoned while your partner is sober

anyway i’m just telling you what i’m hearing. this week alone, three different women compared notes about the men they were no longer seeing, with the common denominator being the lazy sex and the weed.

and i’m not talking about an irregular, social toke. i’m talking about an attachment to dope that makes you slow, lazy, boring and affects your erection (unless you’re 20. in which case a bucket of tequila can’t keep a good erection down). dope numbs you. all of you. and it’s distancing if you’re stoned while your partner is sober.

feels like being the only drunk person at AA. just an analogy. never done that. just so’s you know.

anyhoo. was reminded again this weekend how i simply cannot come if i’m totally fucked on booze.

i would’ve preferred to load another postsecret postcard actually, but none of the others really struck a chord. check them out [clickety click]

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