i forgot to mention in the last post that on the back this postsecret says: our supposed enemies do not hide their bigotry as hard as you do.
after i’d loaded the queer hypocrisy post, @AfricaWolfe — one of my new twitter faves — sent me this link of a post she’d written awhile back about pansexuality.
she answers a few of the myths about bi/pansexuality, but i think some of these also speak to bias against the LGBT group as a whole.
- We’re all promiscuous
- We are just seeking attention
- We’re actually deeply closeted gay people
- We’re all looking for threesomes
- We need drama in our lives
- Bisexual people are more likely to cheat
- We’re all really just very confused bipolar people who cannot make a decision
- There is no such thing as a male bisexual
The last one in particular is interesting as recent studies by kinsey revealed that male bisexuality does actually exist (yay! legitimacy from the establishment!) and salon did a neat, easy-to-read little write-up about it [clickety click]. though i do wonder why female bisexuality hasn’t been considered?
i’ve had to deal with my own sense of bisexual bias on the relationship front. A guy i was seeing identified as bisexual and i initially found it very difficult to process through the fog of my own sense of jealousy and inadequacy. at the time i identified as bicurious (and still do largely, but you know how these things go…) and was grappling with my own either/or scenarios. ironically, by the end of the relationship, i was fully comfortable with us exploring our and his sexuality with other people and? well, he backed right off cos of his own bias against his own sexual orientation.
and as a parting shot, because it made me giggle…