I got an email from Allison, one of the designers who create those cool infographics that float about the web, after she read the Ask Dot :: He is cheating post. I find the header a bit misleading, as I think ‘cheating’ chiefly refers to adultery, while this is largely about lying (and how ‘cheaters’ grow up, i suppose…).
between you and me, i used to lie a lot as a child. considering some of the situations i got myself into, it was probably the smartest thing i could’ve done. as i got older, though, it seemed less … less viable, i suppose. weighing up long-term risk and reward, i started finding honesty really was the best policy, especially when it came to trying to trust someone.
one thing it did teach me was to spot a lie from a million yards. maybe it’s made me too hypersensitive. i met someone who told me ‘all men lie’. i love super generalisations like this. when we feel uncomfortable about our own reality we paint the world with our colour. ‘Everyone’s really a racist at heart’, ‘No one likes brussel sprouts’.
here’s the infographic – and i really do love the graphics on this one…
Online Colleges [clickety click]
scribe told me this the other day (she’d heard it from someone who heard it somewhere): If you want to know if something is a problem, ask yourself: If the truth comes out about this, is it going to be a problem? ‘This’ could be your truth about whether you hate your job so much it’s killing you, or you actually can’t tolerate a ‘friend’ you keep giving happy face to … or the truth about how you actually feel in a relationship.
If you want to know if something is a problem, ask yourself: If the truth comes out about this, is it going to be a problem?
the one most consistent question i get from people is: how do i ‘spice’ up my love life or sex life. and the shortest, only answer i can ever give is: be honest about how you’re feeling.
being honest with yourself and others doesn’t mean you have to be a dick. and learning to be honest to yourself first if you’re used to living in la-la land is pretty hardcore, it’s been one of the toughest things i’ve ever had to learn to do.
oao my sweet plums,
i think balance has been restored in the force.
(oh someone asked me what ‘oao’ is > ‘Over And Out’)