i’m very grateful to have enjoyed some really real love connections. some have been more physical, some more intellectual, some more kind than others…
this postcard reminds me of one in particular. it’s not often i make a real intellectual connection with someone and still feel comfortable around them. i met The Golden Boy in church when we were still teenagers. much later we connected, started hanging out, then created one of the most beautiful relationship stories ever, only to break up horribly a few years later.
anyway. i knew i could be with him because traffic jams were fun. no money was ok. standing in queues was a laugh. we could talk and talk and talk. towards the end of the relationship, he started asking me if i would still love him if his big plans failed and we lived in poverty.
doubt is the tiny crack in the dam wall.
i learnt a lot and still weigh up new possibles with the convo-cocreating i did with him. except now i also want an equal physical chemisty. i keep getting told by people that you either have one or the other – the physical/chemistry connection or the intellectual connection. i say bullshit.
i hope i’m right (… though to be honest, so far, it seems everyone’s right. i hate everyone sometimes.).
happy sunday.
dot
(ooh i also liked this one…totes my philosophy)
I would no longer entertain the possibility of a relationship where I did not have both ..afterall we cant be making love ALL the time..and then what do you do with yourselves? But I spent 10 years in a marriage where I had neither,so I am a fine one to talk..learnt my lesson well though
August 19, 2012 at 9:59 pm
good point. yeah. you live you learn.
August 19, 2012 at 10:44 pm
I agree with Jen. Both is needed for it to be special. Otherwise it’s just a fuck for a fiver.
August 19, 2012 at 10:49 pm
a fuck for a fiver? LOL.
August 19, 2012 at 11:00 pm
We all dream of the perfect but more often than not one suffers for the other. I have had smatterings of both and i have to say as much as i love physical relationships, i would trade it for weight in favour of the intellectual connection, because more often than not its the conversation that gets the strongest feelings out of me and my experience tells me that those are the relationships that i always regret ended.
As to the last post secret – amen – i am in the middle of doing it right now
August 20, 2012 at 2:49 pm