relationships
Postsecret pic of the week :: Cash for gold
I found this week’s postsecret boring as all hell, but this postcard (while hardly the worst secret in the world) reminded me of one of my favourite scenes from a movie. New York, I Love You is this great collection of 11 film shorts into one movie, each story written and directed by a different [...]
Can men and women be just friends?
Dorothy Black finds out that platonic relations between the sexes may be nothing more than wishful thinking I found myself in a rather uncomfortable position at a small downtown soiree the other night. We were well into the evening and enjoying the generous quantity of drinks and canapés, when I found myself cornered by Irate Wife [...]
Ask Dot :: She takes very long to orgasm (a lesson in love making)
Hey Dot. The new woman in my life is very sexual and of course I’m loving it. Problem is that she takes very long to come. At least 45 mins to an hour. Any advice on how I can increase how long it takes me. Without the help of some alcohol. Long suffering penis *** [...]
postsecret pic of the week :: i am terrible in bed
after the run of meh sex last year i started wondering if maybe it was me that was a shitty lover. then i realised i actually just wasn’t really interested in the people i was sleeping with and that, actually, we just weren’t on the same page sexually speaking. fortunately, some balance was restored when [...]
what the actual fuck sundays
oh good lord. it’s one of those sundays. one of those horrible realisation sundays. what i do is a total fucking liability for finding someone lovely. i’ve toyed with the idea before, but now i am 100% sure. and it’s stopped being amusing. every man i’ve met lately (say, last four, five months) is fucking [...]
Postsecret pic of the week :: I feel more alone in relationships
yeah i definitely don’t feel this way (well, except towards the end of a love affair. obvs.), but it was well-timed considering a convo i had with Lemony today about settling for people simply because it’s time to stop imagining you can keep finding people to love. it reminded me of the column i wrote [...]
Ask Dot :: My wife is secretly a cyber dominatrix. What must I do?
I recently discovered my wife having cyber sex with a few guys. She is 41, and these guys all seem to be in their 20s. Should i confront her on it? Or leave her to have her fun. I mean it is better than her running off with some guy. Maybe she will “grow” out [...]
Ask Dot :: I do not want him to touch me anymore
Hello there I am not sure if I am asking for advice or asking if I have gone slightly mad. I am in a two-year relationship. We love each other very much, but I have 0 desire to be physically intimate – partly me, but also him. I cant bear the thought of him near [...]
Postsecret pic of the week :: Blue feet
these are the feet of a blue-footed booby. how do i know this? because over the weekend i found myself on The Couch at the chefs’ pouting about a boy while watching david attenborough (a not unfamiliar scene). david (we’re on a first name basis) brought out his most recent Galapagos 3D, which is freaking [...]
Ask Dot :: My husband refuses to kick his friend out the house, I am pregnant and it is driving me crazy
I desperately need help. I have been married for two and a half years and am 17 weeks pregnant. My husband has a friend that came visit in the middle of January and he is still here with absolutely no sign of leaving. I have spoken to my husband about it and he finds nothing [...]
