relationships
postsecret pic of the week :: me, my valentine
these next two go hand-in-hand for me i think… i spent most of my 20s feeling like i was not the girl men chose to marry. i was always ‘too difficult’ and ‘challenging’, among a list of other descriptions. the two men who did propose i didn’t love and the men i loved, never proposed. [...]
Pregnant girlfriend on 5FM
The question: I have been dating this girl for about three months and about 5 weeks ago we found out she is pregnant. She recently told me that she heard having sex in the first 3 months of being pregnant can be harmful to the baby. Regardless if this is true I can respect her [...]
Addiction on 5FM
The question: my childhood sweetheart and I have been on and off for the last 8 years, we’ve had a consistent relationship for about a year, got engaged and got our own place… everything was perfect and i was happy… but then his mother and her boyfriend decided to move in with us, it was [...]
No sex on 5FM
The question: I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 7 yrs now and the sex is as dry as the kalahari. Sex was great for the first 3 yrs but then it just disappeared. She doesn’t ever kiss me the way she used to or touch me in that way. I have to basically force [...]
somebody that i used to know
i heard this song on 5fm while driving in my car on sunday. it caught my attention immediately – love it love it love it apart from the fact that it’s just an amazeballs tune, i love how honest it is, and how it manages to sum up in a few choice words that weird moment [...]
postsecret pic of the week :: forgiveness
rage is a funny thing. as is forgiveness. six years after the inevitable and crushing finale of my most long-term relationship i experienced real rage about it this week. he was the reason i started this blog. so maybe i have a lot to thank him for. but rage is difficult to let go of [...]
Friends with benefits on 5FM
The question: How do I broach the subject of being friends with benefits with someone? Listen to the 5fm #thedotspot answer >>Friends with benefits on 5FM *** if you’re having sex, then hanging out, going for drinks/dinner, movies … if you make popcorn and use each other’s toothbrush … if you sleep over and have [...]
dream-time contracts
i HATE dreaming about exes. it gets them in your brain and weaves them into your emotional make-up for the week day. my latest top ex dream topics to detest are (in no particular order): I love you, Dot I’m gay and was never into you anyway, Dot. I was just never into you. I [...]
Friends with benefits
Hi there Im currently friends with benefits (this includes going out for dinner/movies/dancing, cuddling, her staying over multiple nights a week, etc), with an ex of mine. We have a long complicated history, and I want to somehow make it more. We have spoken about becoming more, but she said im not her type, and [...]
