relationships
dream-time contracts
i HATE dreaming about exes. it gets them in your brain and weaves them into your emotional make-up for the week day. my latest top ex dream topics to detest are (in no particular order): I love you, Dot I’m gay and was never into you anyway, Dot. I was just never into you. I [...]
Friends with benefits
Hi there Im currently friends with benefits (this includes going out for dinner/movies/dancing, cuddling, her staying over multiple nights a week, etc), with an ex of mine. We have a long complicated history, and I want to somehow make it more. We have spoken about becoming more, but she said im not her type, and [...]
I’m HIV+ and had unprotected sex
Hi Dot I’ve gotten myself into a right mess. I’m HIV positive and I’m in a very new new relationship. Here’s the problem: we’ve already had unprotected sex. I don’t know how to tell him and I don’t know what his status is. I know this is really serious and I feel terrible. What do [...]
National say what? week
so, in an attempt to unstigmatise singledom, the americans thought it would be clever to call 18–24 sept National Single and Unmarried Americans Week. because that would totally not draw a clear line between ‘us’ and ‘them’. It seems so fucking random and yet, there are some valid points to be raised, like unless you’re [...]
I’m married and in love with my girl friend
Hi Dot I need your help. I am a happily married woman and sex life with my husband is great. My problem is that I have a very close girl friend and for sometime now i have been having sexual thoughts about her. We were having drinks a while ago and we got onto the [...]
quickpoll :: sexual bonding
“A July 2011 Kinsey Institute study of 1009 heterosexual couples in long-term committed relationships in five countries (Japan, Brazil, the US, Germany and Spain) surprised many when it revealed that men who reported frequent kissing or cuddling with their partners were on average three times as happy with their relationships as men who reported limited [...]
Sexperience 1000
i’ve made it clear how much i dislike most local sex surveys. But this Channel4 interactive sex survey, released via their very cool sexperienceUK site and called The Sexperience 1000, is fab. What’s really super about it (apart from the cute little people that run around and seem to change their minds) is the fact [...]
Why men rock
Dorothy Black says men are more than just sports-loving, pussy-chasing, beer-drinking arseholes and explains why she thinks they’re kinda cool… The Mother City can be a real bitch when it comes to the male species. When she’s in a mood the only men she’ll throw into the social mix are gay or married. This sulk [...]
dating, mating, beanbags and anonymity
so i’ve started dating again. so far so good. it was time. my dreams were telling me so. my last sex dreams involved eric bana and rupert grint. in one dream. not together mind, eric first, then rupe. while i don’t find them unattractive, they wouldn’t be in my top 10 dreamgasm pin-ups, but at [...]
