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extreme fetish
If you ever thought your threesome fantasies were rough, Dorothy Black shows you where the REAL kink lies. I have never had anyone ask me to pee on them. Or choke them. Or wrap myself up in bandages Kegadol style. I find this mildly disturbing. What kind of self-respecting sex writer has never been confronted [...]
i need YOU (for some dirty talk)
that’s right folks. i need your input on an article i’m writing on dirty talk. a while back i wrote a column for women24 on the subject [let's get dirty talking] and now, lo, i’m writing an expanded piece for … well, can’t tell you that yet can i? that would ruin it. nevertheless… SERIOUSLY. [...]
Friends with benefits on 5FM
The question: How do I broach the subject of being friends with benefits with someone? Listen to the 5fm #thedotspot answer >>Friends with benefits on 5FM *** if you’re having sex, then hanging out, going for drinks/dinner, movies … if you make popcorn and use each other’s toothbrush … if you sleep over and have [...]
conscious sexuality conference 2011
when i went on my first tantric women’s retreat, shakti would always say that we had to visualise our entire pelvic area as a honey pot that we could stir. the idea is that through movement and this ‘dropping into’ your sexual base you’d be better able to connect to your sexuality. worked for me. [...]
A NSFW hello to Monday :: Japanese Shunga
One of my biggest regrets is NOT buying a very good collection of Shunga prints (not originals, but fantastic prints of prints) from a small antique store in tulbagh, of all places. “Translated literally,” says wiki, “the Japanese word shunga means picture of spring … “spring” is a common euphemism for sex.” I’ve chosen a delectable collection [...]
duh-Durex or Why Durex Was Wrong
so yesterday i started following @durexSA. which was fortunate timing because a few hours later they started tweeting the most random and very tired collection of ‘dirty’ jokes in quick succession. ‘fortunate’ i say because their being seo-lly provides me the perfect base to touch on some topics i’ve been meaning to chat about for [...]
A NSFW hello to Monday :: Devora Ran
Devora Ran is ‘A sex culture magazine’ and one I’ve posted from before. Today’s pics are from the 4th edition (the lastest is the 6th)… I especially LOVED this last collection by Naomi Harris – a series called ‘Birds of a feather, finally, flock together’ for Devora Ran, from her book America Swings and taken [...]
BFs and strip clubs on 5FM
The question: My boyfriend wants to take me to a strip show but not just me and him with a group of his friends. Should i go with him? Listen to the 5fm #thedotspot answer >> BFs and strip clubs *** this was a fun question. it reminded me of a column i wrote last [...]
the pill and your sex drive (or lack thereof)
wow. that is a super lame header. just couldn’t think of anything else that was both descriptive and funny. and short. if i had my way it’d be more like: ‘YAY! Kinsey finds that fucking horrible hormone contraceptives really do fuck with your sex drive!!’ but that would be, i dunno, too long. fact is, [...]
Getting real about HIV and STDs
Dorothy Black is over the stigmatisation of HIV/Aids and other sexually transmitted diseases. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to be honest. Especially when it comes to sex. At best we withhold information about something small, like not telling your partner you have a fetish for gimps in latex, at worst we lie about [...]
